Funny as it is...I was watching the news when I got home from class last night and I saw my napro dr! He is a financial advisor for some company. So, that is what he does besides napro. hmmm.....???? He only does napro stuff two days a week...hence...that is why I am waiting until next Monday to get my prog. p +7 bloodwork results. My hubby and I have both felt that like this napro stuff wasn't the most important thing to him. Maybe he knows we won't get pregnant so he's not giving us his all. Maybe he's realized we won't see dr. hilgers so he's doing the bare minimum for us. Other women have gotten pregnant using napro in our area but I don't think they had the IF like I do. I need to get on the horn with making an appt with another IF spec. My husband is ready to close this chapter with the napro dr. I am still going to chart and keep in touch with the practioner. I like her and she's been very enthusiastic. I'm going to see her on Tuesday so she can check over my charts.
As a side thought and not a very good thought...I realized something the other day. I love the Catholic Church and it has done wonders for myself and my hubby. We will die Catholics. The thing I realized is that....we went with Catholic Charities to adopt because they are Catholic. That is the only reason. So, far no adoptions and none on the horizon. They've actually done nothing but do home visits to maintain our license. The reason we went with Napro is because it's Catholic. Here again....no hope in our future of this working. My husband and I are going to have to seek help outside of the church. We are thinking about foster care and we won't do that through Catholic Charities. No way! We now have to make appts with IF Specs who do things that go against our practice. How do we look at this? We are not giving up on our church for our faith but as far as "services" go...we have to look elsewhere. Hmmm......???? Does that matter or mean anything? I don't know. Just something I've thought about. I do realize that this may not be the "church" but the people running the specific service. I also believe God has our future in his hands. I pray he helps us and guides us to good Dr's who can help us and that he helps us to accept his will. If God doesn't want us to be parents....we are just going to have to be happy with that. I guess when my time comes to go to the Lord...I'll be able to say "Lord, we tried." He knows we've tried. He knows that I've not made any decision without praying for his guidance first. Am I questioning too much? Will I ever know that it's time to be done? At some point...I hope so. God Bless.
***Update*** I just called and got the ball rolling on an appt with a new IF Spec in the area. Once they get all my med records (Ugh..more work), they'll call and make an appt for a consult...they said ususally it is in the month. Whew! So, please God we are back on the right track. Oh by the way, they asked if this appt was IF or Medical? I answered "A little of both." I need the medical looked into because I am not getting pregnant. hmmmm...I feel nervous now.*****
It sounds like you hit the nail on the head when you said it's not the "church" but the people running those specific services. Don't give up on your faith, but yes, it can be frustrating. (My entire STATE doesn't even have a Napro doctor!) It seems like some areas of the country are more pro-active with the services than others. Definitely go with your instincts about your current doctor. You're paying him to advocate for you and do all he can for you, and if he's not doing that, then "fire" him. You have to trust that your doctor, whatever his or her faith, is working on your behalf and in your best interests.
ReplyDeleteI think that all we are called to do is the Lord's will. We have not totally gone with only NaPro doctors through all of this, in fact, of the 6 drs. we have seen only 2 were NaPro. We just set our boundries and have stayed within them and have been clear with providers about them. I believe that IF is caused by biological reasons because if it wasn't, then IF would have just gone away generations ago! Each step will give you more information, follow your heart!
ReplyDeleteFunny, we didn't even look at Cathol.ic Ch.arities for our adoption... first, they weren't accepting apps, second, they require a couple be married min. 4 yrs, and third, I worked for them in the past (a childcare run by them), and when attempting to "climb their corporate ladder," found that many of the people working there are NOT Catholic!! Not that it's a problem, per se, it's not like they were doing anything contrary to the Church in their job... but it rubbed me the wrong way that a devout, hardworking Catholic (myself) couldn't get a job because all the Lutherans were working there.
ReplyDeleteBut, my point is I don't think you need to do everything THROUGH the Church, as long as you're adhering to your faith in the steps you do take. And you of course are doing just that.
T.C.I.E. My husband had to quit his part time job as a counselor at the Catholic Charities in order to for us to use them as an adoption agency. I guess it was a conflict of interest. Whatever!
ReplyDeleteAlso...you are right...as long as I follow the faith, I'll be fine with another spec. No one is going to make me do anything against my Catholic faith. Besides that, I don't have that desire. I won't sell my soul for a baby. I love my Lord too much and want our baby to be God's will for us.
So as you know I was moments away from heading to the local RE. Then I had my meeting yesterday. He was a haul but after meeting me once I am not his long distance patient. I think that finding a Napro Dr. who will take on your case and treat you as a long distance patient. They are out there you just have to find it. You have to find the doctor that will be excited to take you on. I felt like this doctor was excited to take me on as a patient! My first one didn't really work out but maybe he is more specialized once I do become pregnant?? Who knows? He also did seem preoccupied....This new one was completely open and available!
ReplyDeleteBut I completely understand I was headed to an IF specialist in my area. I did realize he wasn't not going to properly diagnose my luteal phase defect and that doesn't seem to be your issues. Is there a Napro Dr. whom you think in your general vicinity you might be able to contact. Even if he is a hual. A car ride and even an overnight hotel stay is worth it.....I was just blown away that this doctor will even do everything he can to work within my insurance.
I contacted my new doctor on Thursday and I had an appointment on Friday!!?? Providential? I think so....
So just maybe he is out there you just have to knock on the door. I mean POUND on the door... ;)
I meant to say I am NOW his long distance patient!
ReplyDeleteJust a thought... none of my IF clients work with local Napro Docs - there are none. If you want to stick with Napro - I would urge you to talk with PPVI Institute and get a list of docs in the country. Start with what is closest to you and work from there..I am in Amarillo and their is someone in Dallas...and San Antonio. I would totally urge you to keep charting. Your chart tells sooooooo much. If you stop charting, and come back to napro, you will have missed so much data. Feel free to email me if you want to talk more, since I am a practitioner, I would love to help you with any resources possible. Nicole
ReplyDeleteYou know. I have NEVER heard of Napro until I found you wonderful women. I did a search to find a doctor in my area and well one is a close family friend. So, I would feel really embarrassed about consulting with him. You know? The two doctors, I have never heard of. Maybe I should I set up an appointment. What do you think? How successful is it?
ReplyDeleteI live in the Lower part of Texas, Rio Grande Valley. About 30 minutes from South Padre Island. We don't have a selection of doctors in this area when it comes to IF.
I wish you the best of luck on your journey.
Keep me updated.
God Bless.