Friday, January 16, 2009
Why did I watch this?
As I was mindlessly flipping channels this afternoon I came across the show "Maternity Ward". Sometimes I can sit and watch women screaming in pain as a new life enters this world....it is kind of amazing. I often wonder how it will be for me......but anyway....there was a 14 year old girl giving birth and her 15 year old boyfriend was there by her side. As she was giving birth, the boyfriend was sitting away from her looking petrified! OMG!! She asked him to come over and see their new daughter when she was born. He looked even worse. He was not enthused at all. I sat there thinking.......why her and not me? Is this really what God wants? In my area.........750 teens gave birth last year! Criminey. Having a baby is the trend.....it's the new "it" thing to do? What? Where did this world go wrong? When I was 14, I worried about homework and looked forward to riding horses and going to my best friends house. I started thinking about my body and keeping in shape. I liked when a boy showed interest but in no way was I ready to make a baby!!! I thought smoking a cigarette was cool (which unfortunately turned into smoking more than one for the next ten years. The weekend I met my husband was the weekend I quit. I've been smoke free for about nine years now. Where has the time gone?) But a baby? What is so cool about that when you have so much to do before adulthood? I did change the channel. It was obvious they were keeping the child. I don't think I'm meant to understand this having a baby like driving a car phenomenon. I don't get it. What happened to going to college, finding a job, getting married and then having a family? Or at least if not college, but how am I going to support myself one day? I know some teens have loving families who help them........but is that fair for a teen to ask their own parents to raise yet another baby? Are teens that selfish now? It's about me and since this is cool, I am going to do it? Never mind that this baby will become a child who is going to try to find his or her identity and will HOPEFULLY be a productive citizen one day! I could go on and on.....and after catching that show.........I just starting pondering God's will once again. I know I need to stop watching shows like that........but sometimes I just do. I guess I like punishing myself.
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Or it is so unbelievable you can't stop watching it! I can't even understand. My husband can't figure out why I immerse myself in baby story and all of that. ;) Maybe it is our way of wearing a hair shirt! That's ridiculos, but its a bittersweet. :)
ReplyDeleteThanks for your sweet comments on my blog! SOrry it took so long to get over here. Since i can't blog at work anymore it really puts a damper on things. :) hehehehehe
I watch those same shows. Much more than I probably should, for my mental health. But I like to look at it as "research," like the same way I watch SuperNanny. I watch how BADLY these mothers do things, and then take note to never do certain things with my children, starting from childbirth :)
ReplyDeleteI had to stop volunteering at our crisis pregnancy center for these same reasons. It is definately not fair to see these things in society occur. But sometimes I can see how an unplanned pregnancy can teach many life lessons to those mothers as well as infertility has much to teach me. After seeing something like this I have to really pray for acceptance of God's will for me. :)
ReplyDeleteI guess the shows feed a curiosity that I have with the whole childbirth/mother thing. I just wonder if it really is God's will for all of these young, teen women to have babies when some of them haven't even had their first job. My hubby worked at an alternative school and there was an eighth grader expecting! What does she know? Gosh....did her cycle just begin and she get pregnant? I just wonder if the Good Lord looks down at our society and shakes his head. It's sad...but our society accepts these teen mothers and really does not give them the confidence to want to chose other lifestyles. Society is saying "It's okay to be fourteen and having a baby." Girls need to be built up more and loved for who they are. It wasn't always like this. When I was in H.S. we all "looked" at the one lonely girl that was pregnant. It was so rare. No one thought that was cool. When did it all change? All I can do is just do the best I can to live my life accordingly and try not to get to caught up in the "world". I couldnt' work at a crisis pregnancy center. Boy, that would make me sad ( and probably very frustrated beyond belief). I'd be asking...how can a child be such a burden to one mother and such a blessing to another? I pray the trend changes. Of course, with abortion on the horizon of being so readily available...I'm afraid it may not get better. Ugh! God help us all!
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